Carrie - I am so sorry to hear that your daughter is going through this. There is a fairly active "Ship 5" group on Navy for Moms - if you haven't already joined you should. I know that many people in the past have said that it is easier to fight if you stay at BC (although it could take quite some time). Don't give up! I wish you and your daughter the best - and I hope you can get answers soon.
Do we know what the outcome was?