Anonymous Member Seeking Your Advice

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Permalink Reply by Chuck on June 4, 2012 at 2:31pm

The Chaplian!

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Permalink Reply by John Rudolph on July 7, 2012 at 8:24pm

Tell her she needs to visit the local FFSP (Fleet & Family Support Center) for some advice and counseling, they should be able to assist and steer her in the right path.

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Permalink Reply by Patrick Patterson on July 8, 2012 at 3:26am

The Navy pictures a pregnancy essentially like what it is, a medical condition.  Unfortunately, your daughters "condition" does not allow for her to negotiate orders to a new permanent station and she cannot be aboard ship.  Soooo, long story short, she is kinda stuck where she is until the baby is born and she arranges a care provider.  She must have someone to care for the child while she is at sea, this is not negotiable.  After the baby is born and her medical condition returns to normal, (at least 12 weeks after childbirth), she will be able to negotiate for orders to a new ship as long as she has a "dependent care certificate" on file.  This form essentially designates in writing the person that will care for the child while your daughter is out to sea.  If she stays motivated and wants to continue her Navy career, the Navy wants her to stay.  Unfortunately, what happens in many cases like hers is what is happening to her now.  She has zero job satisfaction and is ready to chuck it because she is temporarily unhappy.  Reinforce the goals she had when she first joined and explain that they are great goals that are just "on hold", and not ruined forever.  Hope this helps.

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