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Comment by KS Dad on March 8, 2011 at 8:55pm

It's been a long road for my sailors nuke training. My son finally got through with his Final Board, a 2.5 hour marathon, and passed it. He also got his first choice of assignment, the Ronald Reagan. Mom and I are relieved and pleased. It's been nothing but school for him since July of 2009 and this kid is not the academic type. Praise Be !!!

Comment by Joe on March 6, 2011 at 6:33pm

I haven't been here for a while, but thought I'd check back in.  My daughter graduated Boot Camp two years ago and is living a happy life as a CTI.  Her younger brother leaves for Boot Camp on June 20th and will be a Nuke. 

Comment by Susan J on March 6, 2011 at 6:23pm

I will see if I can find out more on Craig...other than his sence of humor seems to be back and he is joking with all the nurses!

As for my son, yes he is home..for good. He got a straight up Honorable Discharge, but he is not the same as he was. His depression got so bad he was in the hospital last weekend, couldnt eat or sleep...couldnt even drink water! He had an upper GI scope done Wednesday and they took some biopsies, but dont know the results yet. The ER doc, his regular doc and the gastroentroaligist all say it is due to stress...hmmmm When i went to call Tri-Care to get approval for him to go to our local hospital...I was told he had been DENIED the 90 day interim coverage! OMG...Thank god I had already put him back on my insurance! But he has a follow up appointment in the next state over at the VA hospital for some testing and with letters in hand from our local docs findings..hopfully the VA will pick it up from here.  FINGERS CROSSED!

Comment by Michael Louth on March 6, 2011 at 5:57am

Sandy & I will certainly be praying for Craig.  He is a tremendous asset to the Navy Dads Family and has been a big help to our family.

Comment by Susan J on March 6, 2011 at 12:30am

I would just like you all to say a prayer for Craig...he is back in the hospital after having surgery, this time with a blood clot as a complication of the surgery.

Comment by Michael Louth on February 27, 2011 at 7:19pm

We have raised 3 kids also and they are 3 completely different personalities and have to treated as such.  God made us all unique.  Sandy and I have discussed this and agree there will be parameters our son must follow and some space we must give to him.  He hasn't been overly receptive to our ideas but we will stick to them regardless...we have to.

If the Nuke Program was too much for him, we certainly wish he would have chosen to speak up and ask to be moved into another program, rather than the choices he has made to get himself removed.

We love him regardless of anything, but this is our home, which he is welcome at, but our rules stand today and for all tomorrows.

Comment by proud dad Nuke sailor on February 26, 2011 at 8:59am

I can only speak from personal experience, but I can say that everyone is different. I have three kids and I handle each of them differently. I know that each of them have different gifts and need to be encouraged differently. I hope that you can step back and see where your son is mentally, but the end result is he has to become self sufficient, that is just a part of life. I am sure that your son has lots to contribute to this world and if you see this desire in him then you need to do what you can to help him. Sometimes we have to hit the bottom and realize that is were we are before we can decide that what we are doing is not working. Don't make it to comfortable at home and do establish boundaries, he is a guest in your home. Things like you need to be in by this time of night if you are going to stay here and not disturb the rest of the family are very reasonable. Your son will be different than he was before he left but if he is staying in your house you can establish the boundaries. I would discus this with your wife and make sure that both of you are on the same page and have a united front to help your son move forward. My son said that there is some of the things there that you just get or you do not. It doesn't mater how much you study some of the guys are just not cut out for it. I was concerned when I saw the post about the things that were sent home and you may want to ask him what his motivation was in doing that. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.

Comment by Michael Louth on February 26, 2011 at 4:44am

THanks Craig.

We have treied to discuss this timeline with him and it just seems to agitate him.  We have made it clear that he has to find employment, a car, an apartment, etc in a set amount of time.  We love him more than he can imagine, but we can not support him financially.

We will do what we can to help him, but he will have to become self supportive in many ways.

We will continue to lean on you all as this is a road untraveled for us.

Comment by Craig on February 26, 2011 at 1:22am

Michael - I work with alot of young deppers who turn into sailors.  Sometimes they get in trouble and are discharged.  The bottomline as a parent that you really need to start to think about how long your son is given to find employment.  They must know that by x day, they must have something lined up.  You cannot begin your thinking of this when he arrives, you and your wife need to figure it out now, and stand united on what you both agree upon. 

These young sailors are use to having deadlines.  You need give them enough time to settle in, but they need to know when the deadline is, let's just say 3 months for example.  Make sure you sit down with him (a couple days after he arrives) and circle the dates on a calendar.  Then put on the frig. You don't want him to come back and say he didn't know. 

 

Secondly, I'm not sure if you understand this, most parents don't.  The discharge he was given makes him ineligible to use his education benefit.  The money that he paid in, $1200, is now donated to the government.  So, if he says he plans to go to school, then understand that you or him will have to come up with the cost of the tuition. 

 

Like I said, I have done this many times, and I know the thinking these young sailors have.  If you need any help, just ask.

Comment by Michael Louth on February 25, 2011 at 7:55pm

That is Great to know Paul!  We will be here...count on it.

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