My guess is, what's going through your girlfriends head is,....I need to pass whatever test I have still failed.
This is not a totally uncommon event. She may not have passed the mile and a half run. She may not have passed her swimming test. It could be several things.
I can understand her parents being upset and it does suck. There's a chance she passes the next day and then is sent to A School, and her parents would be able to see her off at the airport. This is a tough situation, but this isn't girl scout camp, it's the U.S. Navy and they have standards that every sailor must pass.
I'd be very surprised if the Marines allowed an unqualified grad to march with his division, but don't know for sure.
Hang tight, once she finishes up, she will have more information to share.
Cody....we are helping you! You have to accept that there is nothing you can do but provide encouragement. She is part of the Navy Team and they will do everything in their power to get her through this. It is basically in her hands.....She will succeed. Understand that there are requirements for all Sailors. Lives may depend upon these skills in the future. This is NOT uncommon....Hang in there, Bud!
im hanging in there, it just been really hard because this was suppose to be a week of happy and good for all of us, Her, her parents and me. I had re scheduled a surgery because when i found out the after effects i wanted to watch her graduation on the live feed, and talk to her after. All night monday i kept waking up every hour i just felt like something was wrong. I know about the FIT program what doesnt get me was that in her letter she said she was struggling on the fitness, she pasted everything and i wanna say the run but she was working on it, but it was push ups that was getting her. So i know if she was having the problems the RDCs would see it and know it before she would and wouldnt let it slide unless what she has been telling me alot is that they have been complete jerks (i know strict i know all that, it bootcamp) but if they knew wouldnt she be put in the fit program like a few weeks ago? Thats what doesnt make sense to me. Or maybe theres more and they could not be telling her because the phone call to her mom was less than 5 minutes at like 8 our time, i think it happened after battle station. It just hasnt been making sense because it just feels like now because of it they are punishing her, and her mom talked with someone at the base to get some light of course they couldnt tell her anything, it is the government, and they flat out told her once they take it away from her that it, even if she does pass the test she gets nothing. i dont know maybe im just blowing off steam. Im just worried about her, shes not in the state of mind, she told me in one of her letters, im just scared that she has begin to think the worse when there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I know theres nothing i can do now but just wait for a call. Im just scared that she wont pass because the stress is big sead in her head, and they will send her home after her hard work.......... which is my question would they do that?
The last thing they want for her is failure. Firstly....nothing has been taken away by the Navy. It has to be earned by her. There is NO wiggle room. She will be worked with and encouraged by the others who find themselves in the same position! She is not alone in this...trust me! She is given every opportunity to complete her tests during the normal course of Basic. She wouldn't have been placed in FIT earlier on. That isn't the way it works. It will take as long as it takes, but I'm sure she will get through this.....Be there for her and cheer her on!
NavyDads doesn't sugar-coat things- the RDCs help the recruits but in the end, the recruit has to perform. People die in the Navy (research the USS Cole and the USS Samuel B Roberts for instance)- those sailors better perform when the crap hits the fan- if they don't meet the minimum requirements they have no business being in the fleet and potentially endangering their shipmates and their ship.
Cody....It is a Team effort. However, the 8 weeks are the limit. After that, the new Sailors must move on into the Fleet. It would be unfair to them to be held back. Those that haven't passed their testing now present a potential danger to those that have. As I told you before.....lives are at stake here. These can be extremely dangerous jobs in the course of deployments. That is why the FIT program exists....in order to aid those that need the extra time and training.....This is not a case where everyone gets a trophy for participating. She will put in the extra time and effort and will find her way...you will see. Again...just be as supportive as you can for her. She will be grateful when she gets through this!