Need help with seperation

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Permalink Reply by NavyDads Admin (Paul) on November 7, 2016 at 4:19am

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Permalink Reply by NavyDads CoAdmin Jim Gramza on November 7, 2016 at 5:48am

Chad, I am having a hard time believing that it's just failing room inspection. If he's in boot camp, it may just be a scare tactic to get him to do better. But he does not have a private room at RTC. I don't understand how this could be at boot camp.

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Permalink Reply by Chad on November 7, 2016 at 8:05am

He made 1 year Nov 4th. He is just finishing A school in Monterey. Supposedly passed his DLPT. I agree none of this makes sense. I am overcome with emotions. I told him to step up, find an advocate, and do whatever it takes to reverse this and make it right. I feel helpless here. I feel angry that he squandered the greatest opportunity provided on him. How can he get so far and then just let go? I'm lost...

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Permalink Reply by Margaret Clayton on November 7, 2016 at 8:34am

I am so sorry you have to deal with this.  Unfortunately, there is little you can do but be patient.

No, they do not separate anyone for failing a few room inspections.  He will tell you when he is ready to own whatever happened.  I wish I had advice, other than be supportive, listen, and try not to make him feel worse than he probably does already.  

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Permalink Reply by Chad on November 7, 2016 at 2:21pm

It's hard. I feel guilty, ashamed, angry, heartbroken, responsible, worried, scared, sad, and helpless. Thanks for the kind, supporting words.

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Permalink Reply by Margaret Clayton on November 7, 2016 at 6:40pm

It is difficult when someone we love changes paths abruptly, is not close by, and the situation is beyond your control.  Please do not blame yourself.  You are a good, loving parent doing the best you can.

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Permalink Reply by NavyDads CoAdmin Jim Gramza on November 7, 2016 at 7:15pm

So sorry Chad. But Margaret is correct..just be there for him when he is ready to talk. All you can do is love your kids and do your best to help them.

Good luck.

Jim

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Permalink Reply by NavyDads Admin (Paul) on November 7, 2016 at 7:44pm

Chad- as dark as it may seem, hold your head high in that you raised a son that joined the US Navy.  Regardless of how you may feel about this situation, the sun will rise tomorrow in the East and life will go on....the Lord works in mysterious way sometimes....have faith !

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Permalink Reply by Patrick * on November 10, 2016 at 3:57pm

Separation for failing a room inspection?  I can understand some tough PT and remediation, but not separation from the Navy... Nope, there is something more to this story!

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Permalink Reply by Sherman Smith on November 19, 2016 at 4:26pm

Chad,He must be at the Defense Language School. Is his Rate CTI? What did he get on his DLPT? if he got a 2/2 he should have no problem. This is a very strange school. All four branches attend. The distractions are high much easier if he isn't old enough to drink. BUT i know first hand they will try to help him through. But, Don't despair, this is not for every one. The Navy is very good at placing the right person with the right job. All the kids that I saw that were removed from DLI were very distraught at the time. But are happier now ,doing well in the fleet and wondered why they ever even wanted to be a linguist.

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